Tuesday, September 27, 2005

2 Choices

A good friend of mine send me the story below which I found very interesting that we can learn something from it.

Jerry is the manager of a restaurant. He is always in a good mood. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would always reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed jobs, so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant. Why ?

Because Jerry was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was always there, telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"

Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, I have two choices today. I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to be in a bad mood. I always choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be victim or I can choose to learn from it. I always choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose the positive side of life."

"But it's not always that easy,“ I protested.

"Yes it is," Jerry said. Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk every situation is a choice.

You choose how you react to situations.
You choose how people will affect your mood.
You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood.
It's your choice how you live your life."

Several years later, I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you are never supposed to do in the restaurant business. He left the back door of his restaurant open. And then ???

In the morning, he was robbed by three armed men. They want?

While Jerry trying to open the safe box, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found quickly and rushed to the hospital.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.… I saw Jerry about six months after the accident.

When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.

"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, after they shot me, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or could choose to die. I chose to live."

"Weren't you scared“ I asked?

Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the expression on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, there was a big nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything." 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Please operate on me as if I am alive, not dead'.

"Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.

I learned from him that every day you have the choice to either enjoy your life or to hate it. The only thing that is truly yours -- that no one can control or take from you -- is your attitude. So if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much easier.

Now you have two choices to make:
1. You can ignore this story or
2. You can share it to someone you care about.

I hope you will choose #2. I did.

Saturday, September 24, 2005

Again he disappointed me ...

Wednesday, September 21, 2005


There's a games in internet that I love to play. It's called Sudoku. It is a very interesting and challenging games coz you must use your brain to play it. So for people who likes to think this games is for you. Have fun.

Saturday, September 17, 2005


There’s one movie that always makes me want to cry every time I remember it. The title is ‘Who Will Love My Children’. It’s about a mother with four children who’s dying due to a cancer she had. So she tried to give away her children one by one to a family who wants to adopt them before she left this world. Actually she wanted her four children being adopted by one family but of course it’s difficult to find a family who wanted to adopt four children at once. It’s very sad to see her walking from one house to another house asking if that family wanted to take her child. Some people refused by saying that they can’t afford to raise a child while from the house they have we can see that the owner of that house is a rich people. Some others just closed the door without even let her finished telling them why she wanted to give away her child. The saddest scene in this movie was when she walked in the rain shivering while holding her youngest child tight.

From this movie we can learn how big the love of a mother to her children. How she struggled between life and death in delivering her babies into the world. How she spent much energy to look after and raise them. She will do anything to make her children happy. But sometimes children do not realize that. They don’t respect her. Ah .. ibu, I miss you so much. I want to hold her and tell her how grateful I am for making me what I am now. She taught me how to behave, she taught me how to cook, and the most is she taught me about Islam and how to be a good muslimah. May Allah bless her in this world and hereafter

Thursday, September 15, 2005

Capek ... Capek ...

Aduh biyung capek banget aku hari ini. Jam 5 subuh Bella putriku yang pertama udah teriak2 manggil mamma ... mamma ... padahal aku masih ngantuk berat. Daripada teriakannya bangunin Brenda putri keduaku yang baru 2.5 bulan, terpaksa deh aku bangun. Biasanya tiap bangun pagi dia langsung duduk di kursi malas sambil meluk boneka Teddy trus nunjuk remote control minta disetel TV nya.

Aku udah hapal banget ama ritualnya dia. Program TV kegemarannya film kartun anak2, hewan dan musik. Eh, walaupun baru 21 bulan Bella udah punya favorit lo. Dia suka banget ama Eminem dan musik lokal sini yang saking seringnya diputar, ampe ada yang protes di koran. Pusing katanya dengerin lagu itu mulu. Biasanya buat sarapan aku bikinin roti pake selai madu atau cereal. Atau kalau dia gak mau dua2nya aku bikinin lappe atau pancake. Dia bosenan soalnya. Jadi musti ganti2. Tapi hari ini tumben dia nolak semua yang aku sodorin. Aku marahin, dia tetep gak mau makan. Ya udah aku biarin aja dia duduk sendiri sambil nonton TV. Mungkin belum lapar. Berhubung gak bisa tidur lagi ya udah aku bikin sarapan untuk diriku sendiri. Suami sih belum bangun jam segini. Baru satu suap eh .. Brenda nangis.
Aku buru2 bikin susu. Air susuku dikit banget jadi musti tambah susu botol. Susunya abis dia tetep nangis. Aku coba susuin gak mau. Aku ganti popoknya masih nangis juga. Ya udah, akhirnya aku gendong bawa keluar. Sambil gendong Brenda aku harus ngikutin Bella kemana dia pergi karena dia suka mainin stop kontak atau nyalain kompor listrik. Bahaya kan kalo gak diawasin. Bisa2 kesetrum dia. Gak lama kemudian suamiku bangun. Dan Brenda nangis lagi pas aku tarok di box nya. Aku biarin aja karena aku harus bikinin sarapan buat doi. Pokoknya seharian itu dua2nya gak mau tidur. Bella maunya main terus dan Brenda maunya di gendong mulu. Jadi supaya bisa ngerjain housework ya aku terpaksa tarok Bella di kamarnya dan Brenda di box. Dan of course dua2nya menjerit protes. Setelah selesai baru aku keluarin Bella dari kamarnya dan gendong Brenda lagi. Jam 2 siang baru mereka tidur. Aku bisa sedikit istirahat tapi itu juga gak lama. Belum sejam Brenda udah nangis lagi. Untunglah akhirnya suamiku pulang. Dia gendong Brenda dan aku bukannya istirahat tapi masak buat makan malam. Dan Bella hari ini bener2 nakal. Dia bolak balik ke dapur minta ini dan itu. Makan malam terpaksa gantian. Suamiku makan malam duluan dan aku gendong Brenda sambil ngawasin Bella. Akhirnya jam 11 malam baru mereka benar2 tertidur. Hah ... what a day. Like my friend said, “being a housewife is a full time job”. And she’s absolutely right.

Tuesday, September 13, 2005


Two weeks ago one of some good friends of mine went back to Paris after living here for 3 years. The day when she left I didn’t feel anything just a bit sad. But now suddenly I feel kind of missing her. She’s a good person. She had invited me many times for makan-makan. She’s a good cook. She can cook many kinds of food. And my favourites are sayur asem and bakso. So even though I live so far away from Indonesia, thanks to her, I still can taste how delicious sayur asem and bakso are. She can also make bakso tahu. Hmmm …. make me hungry. So actually I don't miss her but her cooking, he he … just kidding.

She always has something to tell me every time we met. Good news or bad news or just some silly jokes. The environment will be more alive when she’s around. She’s a caring person. I do miss our togetherness. You see, friendship is like wine. It gets better as it grows older.

So Eka, if you by any chance read my blog, this posting is for you. Till we meet again.

Sunday, September 11, 2005

Funny how quickly life can change, how we rise and fall through so many snakes and ladders to fulfil our dreams and desires. But we get there in the end ...

Saturday, September 10, 2005

I think the key to have a perfectly good marriage is simply good communication. Being honest and saying exactly what you feel. The moment you start withholding things and burying them beneath the surface, it creates a wall between you that gets bigger every day, until one day you realise you can't see over the top.

Thursday, September 08, 2005


My daughter can jump for the first time today. She was so happy and excited. She kept jumping and jumping and sometimes she lost her balance and fell down. But she didn’t cry and continued jumping. It is a great pleasure to watch her growing. I find it so exciting and enjoying every time she’s able to do something new. I was there when she can lie on her stomach. I was there when she can sit, crawl, stand and then walk. I was there when she got her first tooth. Then the second, the third, etc. And I promise to myself that I will always be there in every precious moment of her life.

Deep Thinking

Have you ever thought about the fact that you did not exist before you were conceived and then born into the world and that you have come into existence from mere nothingness?

Have you ever thought about how the flowers you see in your living room everyday come out of pitch black, muddy soil with fragrant smells and are as colourful as they are?

Have you ever thought about how mosquitoes, which irritatingly fly around you, move their wings so fast that we are unable to see them?

Have you ever thought about how the peels of fruits such as bananas, watermelons, melons and oranges serve as wrappings of high quality, and how the fruits are packed in these wrappings so that they maintain their taste and fragrance?

Have you ever thought about the possibility that while you are asleep a sudden earthquake could raze your home, your office, and your city to the ground and that in a few seconds you could lose everything of the world you possess?

Have you ever thought of how your life passes away very quickly, and that you will grow old and become weak, and slowly lose your beauty, health and strength?

Have you ever thought about how one day you will find the angels of death appointed by God before you and that you will then leave this world?

Well, have you ever thought about why people are so attached to a world from which they will soon depart when what they basically need is to strive for the hereafter?

Man is a being whom God furnishes with the faculty of thought. Yet, most people do not use this very important faculty as they should. In fact, some people almost never think.

In truth, each person possesses a capacity for thought of which even he himself is unaware. Once man begins to use this capacity, facts he has not been able to realise until that very moment begin to be uncovered for him. The deeper he goes in reflection, the more his capacity to think improves and this is possible for everyone. One just has to realise that one needs to reflect and then to strive hard.

Someone who does not think will remain totally distant from truths and lead his life in self-deception and error. As a result, he will not grasp the purpose of the creation of the world, and the reason for his existence on the earth. Yet, God has created everything with a purpose. This fact is stated in the Qur'an as follows:

We did not create the heavens and the earth and everything between them as a game. We did not create them except with truth but most of them do not know it. (Surat ad-Dukhan: 38-39) Did you suppose that We created you for amusement and that you would not return to Us? (Surat al-Muminun: 115)

Therefore, each person needs to ponder the purpose of creation, first as it concerns him himself, and then as it pertains to everything he sees in the universe and every event he experiences throughout his life. Someone who does not think, will understand the facts only after he dies, when he gives account before God, but then it will be too late. God says in the Qur'an that on the day of account, everybody will think and see the truth:

That day Hell is produced, that day man will remember; but how will the remembrance help him? He will say, "Oh! If only I had prepared in advance for this life of mine!" (Surat al-Fajr: 23-24)

These are only a few of the beautiful things a person who thinks will gain in the world. The gain in the hereafter of someone who always finds the truth by thinking, is the love, approval, mercy and the paradise of our Lord, which are above everything else.

Tuesday, September 06, 2005

Morning Has Broken

Morning has broken like the first morning.
Blackbird has spoken like the first bird.
Praise for them singing, praise for the morning.
Praise for them springing, fresh from the world.

Sweet the rain's new fall sunlit from heaven.
Like the first dewall on the first grass.
Praise for the sweetness of the wet garden.
Sprung in completeness where his feet pass.

Mine is the sunlight ! Mine is the morning.
Born on the one light Eden saw play !
Praise with elation, praise every morning.
God's recreation of the new day.

~Yusuf Islam (formerly Cat Stevens)~

Friday, September 02, 2005

Mood Swings

I feel a bit guilty to my husband this morning.

This is the story. Yesterday we must be in the social office at 12 pm and we decided to walk coz the place is not far. Actually it only takes half an hour but since we left home at 10.30, we were too early. So we stopped by at the play ground nearby and let my daughter playing around. It really warms my heart to see her running here and there happily with the Teddy in her arm. It made me realize also how lucky I am to have such a beautiful daughter. I feel blessed.

From the social office we had lunch at Josephine CafĂ© then continued walking to the shop to buy some food. After that we walked again to home. So we’ve been walking 3.5 hours and I felt tired and hurt on my legs coz I didn’t wear jogging shoes. At that time I really need to rest a little bit but I couldn’t. I still had many things to do, you know, house works.

Finally after dinner I could rest. The children had slept and there’s no more to be done. So I said to my husband that I will take a shower, do night prayer and go to sleep. He said he will do the same after me. Before going to sleep we used to talk many things while holding each other and he caress my hair softly. I really like that moment especially if I feel so tired and need some comfort. But what did I see after finished having a shower. He sat in front of his portable PC, talking with his friend in Oslo using Skype programme and chatting with a friend in Spain as well. I thought it won’t be long but then after finished talking with his friend in Oslo he started talking with this friend in Spain. So I waited and waited hoping that he will finish soon. But he kept on talking until almost midnight. I felt really upset. 25 minutes before midnight he finished talking at last and took a shower. When he finished taking a shower I just laid down on the sofa. I hope he will ask me to go to bed together but he just walked to the bed and said good night. I wish he knew what I want. I wish he understood me that night. Or maybe I should’ve told him what I want. It really doesn’t matter to me if he spends much time on computer. But sometimes I want him to understand me, to know what I want without me telling him.

Anyway, this morning when I checked my incoming email as usual, I checked my blog as well to see if there’s someone drop some comments on my posts. Then I read it. Apparently my husband dropped a comment on my post titled ‘Happiness’ last night. It brought tears to my eyes when I read it. He said he loves me most of the time. That’s why I feel guilty. If I knew it before I will hold him soon after he woke up this morning. When I wrote this post he has left home for Friday prayer at the mosque. You see, there are lots of things have happened during our marriage, good and bad, but as a matter of fact he still loves me after all. I think I must thank him for loving me no matter what had happened between us. Love you BB.