Wednesday, December 19, 2007


After reading the article below and studying it carefully for many months, also have read about the same topic from many sources, I have come to the conclution and decided not to wear hijab anymore. However I'm not against women wearing hijab but I understand it as a personal choice and not an obligation toward Allah.

Please read it with an open mind and tell me what you think.



[7:26] "O children of Adam, we have provided you with garments to cover your bodies, as well as for luxury. But the best garment is the garment of righteousness. These are some of GOD's signs, that they may take heed."

This is the BASIC rule of DRESS CODE in the Quran. This is the first rule in WOMEN DRESS CODE in Islam (Submission).


The second rule can be found in 24:31. Here God orders the women to cover their bosoms whenever they dress up. But before quoting 24:31 let us review some crucial words that are always mentioned with this topic, namely "Hijab" and "Khimar"


"Hijab" is the term used by many Muslims women to describe their head cover that may or may not include covering their face except their eyes, and sometimes covering also one eye. The Arabic word "Hijab" can be translated into veil or yashmak. Other meanings for the word "Hijab" include, screen, cover(ing), mantle, curtain, drapes, partition, division, divider.

Can we find the word "Hijab" in the Quran??

The word "Hijab" appeared in the Quran 7 times, five of them as "Hijab" and two times as "Hijaban," these are 7:46, 33:53, 38:32, 41:5, 42:51, 17:45 & 19:17.

None of these "Hijab" words are used in the Quran in reference to what the traditional Muslims call today (Hijab) as a dress code for the Muslim woman. God knows that generations after Muhammed's death the Muslims will use the word "Hijab" to invent a dress code that He never authorized. God used the word "Hijab" ahead of them just as He used the word "Hadith" ahead of them.

Hijab in the Quran has nothing to do with the Muslim Women dress code.


While many Muslims call "Hijab", an Islamic dress code, they completely ignore the fact that, Hijab as a dress code has nothing to do with Islam and nothing to do with QURAN.

In reality "Hijab" is an old Jewish tradition that infiltrated into the hadith books like many innovations that contaminated Islam through alleged Hadith and Sunna. These in reality, came from Jewish origin. Any student of the Jewish traditions or religious books will see that head cover for the Jewish woman is encouraged by the Rabbis and religious leaders. Religious Jewish women still cover their heads most of the time and specially in the synagogues, weddings, and religious festivities.

Christian women cover their heads in many religious occasions while the nuns cover their heads all the time. This religious practice of covering the head was established from traditions thousands of years before the Muslim scholars claimed the Hijab as a Muslim dress code.

The traditional Arabs, of all religions, Jews, Christians and Muslims used to wear "Hijab," not because of Islam, but because of tradition. In Saudi Arabia, up to this minute most of the men cover their head , not because of Islam but because of tradition. Thank God this tradition has not been counted as Islamic dress code yet.

North Africa is known for its Tribe (Tuareg) that have the Muslim men wearing "Hijab" instead of women. Here the tradition has the hijab in reverse. If wearing Hijab is the sign of the pious and righteous Muslim woman, Mother Teresa would have been the first woman to be counted.

In brief, hijab is a traditional dress and has nothing to do with Islam or religion. In certain areas of the world, men are the ones who wear the hijab while in others the women do.

Mixing religion with tradition is a form of idol-worship, because not knowing (or not trying to find out) what God asked you to do in His book, the Quran, is a sign of disregarding God and His message. When tradition supersedes God's commandment, the true religion takes a second place. God never accepts to be second, God has to be always the FIRST and to HIM there is no second.


"Khimar" is an Arabic word that can be found in the Quran in 24:31 While the first basic rule of Dress Code for the Muslim Women can be found in 7:26, the second rule of the DRESS CODE FOR WOMEN can be found in 24:31. Some Muslims quote verse 31 of sura 24 as containing the Hijab, or head cover, by pointing to the word, khomoorehenna, (from Khimar), forgetting that God already used the word Hijab, several times in the Quran.

Those blessed by God can see that the use of the word "Khimar" in this verse is not for "Hijab" or for head cover. Those who quote this verse usually add (Head cover) (veil) after the word Khomoorehenna, and usually between ( ), because it is their addition to the verse not God's.

Here it is 24:31;

"And tell the believing women to subdue their eyes, and maintain their chastity. They shall not reveal any parts of their bodies, except that which is necessary. They shall cover their chests, (with their Khimar) and shall not relax this code in the presence of other than their husbands, their fathers, the fathers of their husbands, their sons, the sons of their husbands, their brothers, the sons of their brothers, the sons of their sisters, other women, the male servants or employees whose sexual drive has been nullified, or the children who have not reached puberty. They shall not strike their feet when they walk in order to shake and reveal certain details of their bodies. All of you shall repent to GOD, O you believers, that you may succeed." 24:31

Here is Yousuf Ali's translation, but the word KHIMAR was put back in place instead of (veils), so the verse would look as it should have been before adding Ali's own interpretation:

"And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments ... that they should draw their KHIMAR over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands.." Y. Ali's translation, with the word khimar put back in place.

"Khimar" is an Arabic word that means, cover, any cover, a curtain is a Khimar, a dress is a Khimar, a table cloth that covers the top of a table is a Khimar, a blanket can be used as a Khimar..etc. The word KHAMRA used for intoxicant in Arabic has the same root with Khimar, because both covers, the Khimar covers (a window, a body, a table . etc.) while KHAMRA covers the state of mind. Most of the translators, obviously influenced by Hadith (fabrications) translate the word as VEIL and thus mislead most people to believe that this verse is advocating the covering of the head.

In 24:31 God is asking the women to use their cover (khimar)( being a dress, a coat, a shawl, a shirt, a blouse, a tie, a scarf . . . etc.) to cover their bosoms, not their heads or their hairs. If God so willed to order the women to cover their heads or their hair, nothing would have prevented Him from doing so. GOD does not run out of words. GOD does not forget. God did not order the women to cover their heads or their hair. He was not waiting for a Scholar to put the words for Him.

The Arabic word for CHEST, GAYB is in the verse (24:31), but the Arabic words for HEAD, (RAAS) or HAIR, (SHAAR) are NOT in the verse. The commandment in the verse is clear - COVER YOUR CHEST OR BOSOMS, but also the fabrication of the scholars and most of the translators is clear by claiming- cover your head or hair.

The last part of the verse (24:31) translates as, "They shall not strike their feet when they walk in order to shake and reveal certain details of their bodies." The details of the body can be revealed or not revealed by the dress you wear, not by your head cover.

Notice also the expression in 24:31, "They shall not reveal any parts of their bodies, except that which is necessary." This expression may sound vague to many because they have not understood the mercy of God. Again God here used this very general term to give us the freedom to decide according to our own circumstances the definition of "Which is necessary". It is not up to a scholar or to any particular person to define this term. God wants to leave it personal for every woman and no one can take it away from her.

Women who follow the basic rule number one i.e. righteousness, will have no problem making the right decision to reveal only which is necessary. The word "zeenatahunna" in this verse refers to the woman's body parts (beauty) and not to ornaments and decorations as some people interpret it or translate it.

At the end of the verse, God told the women not to strike with their feet to show their "zeenatahunna". You do not need to strike your feet to show your ornaments but the way you strike your feet while walking can expose or shake certain parts of the body that do not need to be emphasized.

Accepting orders from anybody but God, means idol-worship. That is how serious the matter of Hijab/ khimar is. Women who wear Hijab because of tradition or because they like it for personal reasons commit no sin, as long as they know that it is not part of this perfect religion. Those who are wearing it because they think God ordered it are committing Idol-worship, as God did not order it, the scholars did. These women have found for themselves another god than the One who revealed the Quran, complete, perfect and FULLY detailed to tell them they have to cover their heads to be Muslims.

Idol-worship is the only unforgivable sin, if maintained till death, 4:48.


The first regulation of DRESS CODE for Muslim women is in 7:26, the second is in 24:31 and the third is in 33:59.

"O prophet, tell your wives, your daughters, and the wives of the believers that they shall LENGTHEN their garments. Thus, they will be recognized and avoid being insulted. God is Forgiver, Most Merciful." 33:59

In 33:59, God sets the other regulation for the dress code for the Muslim women during the prophet's life. Although the verse is talking to the prophet which means this regulation applies to the time of the prophet, just like the order in 49:2, the description fits the spirit of Islam, and can teach us a great deal.

If you reflect on this verse and how God ordered the prophet to tell his wives, his daughters and the wives of the believers to lengthen their garments, you would understand the great wisdom of the MOST WISE, the MOST MERCIFUL. In this verse, God, DELIBERATELY, (and all the TRUE believers know that everything GOD says, does, or did is DELIBERATE) said, tell them, to lengthen their garments, and never said how long is long.

God could have said tell them to lengthen their garments to their ankles or to their mid-calf or to their knees, but HE DID NOT. He did not, OUT OF HIS MERCY, not because HE FORGOT as God does not forget. God knows that we will be living in different communities and have different cultures and insists that the minor details of this dress code will be left for the people of every community to hammer for themselves.

It is clear from the above verses that the DRESS CODE for the Muslim women (Submitters) according to the Quran is righteousness and modesty. God knows that this modesty will be understood differently in different communities and that is why He left it open to us to decide for ourselves.

Decide, after righteousness what is modesty. Modesty for a woman who lives in New York may not be accepted by a woman who lives in Cairo Egypt. Modesty of a woman who lives in Cairo, Egypt may not be accepted by a woman who lives in Saudi Arabia. Modesty of a woman who lives in Jidda in Saudi Arabia may not be accepted by a woman who lives in a desert oasis in the same country.

This difference in the way we perceive modesty is well known to God, he created us, and He put NO hardship on us in this great religion. He left it to us to decide what modesty would be. For any person, knowledgeable or not to draw a line and make conclusion for God about the definition of modesty is to admit that he/she knows better than God. God left it open for us and no-one has the authority to restrict it, it has to stay open.


In the family setting, God put no hardship on the women, and permitted them to relax their dress code. If you reflect on the verses, 33:35 and 24:60, you will see that God did not give details of what this relaxation is, because every situation is different. A woman may relax her dress code in front of the four-year-old son of her brother but not as much in front of the 16 year old son.

[33:55] "The women may relax (their dress code) around their fathers, their sons, their brothers, the sons of their brothers, the sons of their sisters, the other women, and their (female) servants. They shall reverence GOD. GOD witnesses all things."

[24:60] "The elderly women who do not expect to get married commit nothing wrong by relaxing their dress code, provided they do not reveal too much of their bodies. To maintain modesty is better for them. GOD is Hearer, Knower."


[7:31] "O children of Adam, you shall be clean and dress nicely when you go to the masjid. And eat and drink moderately; Surely, He does not love the gluttons."


God, the MOST GRACIOUS, MOST MERCIFUL decided that those who will reject His complete book and go look for other sources for guidance will suffer in this life and in the HEREAFTER by their choice. God never put any hardship on the believers, but the scholars did, they invented their own laws in defiance of God, to regulate everything from the side of bed you sleep on, to which foot should step in the house, to what to do with a fly in your soup, to what to say when having intercourse with your spouse.

Those who believe God and believe that His book is COMPLETE, PERFECT AND FULLY DETAILED, will have everything easy for them as God promised, See 10:62-64, 16:97 while those who could not believe God and have been seeking other sources than the Quran will have all the hardship of this life and the life to come. In the Hereafter they will complain to God, "we were not idol-worshipers," but God knows best, He knows they were See 6:22-24 "On the day when we summon them all, we will ask the idol worshipers, "Where are the idols you set up?" Their disastrous response will be, "By GOD our Lord, we never were idol worshipers." Note how they lied to themselves, and how the idols they had invented have abandoned them." 6:22-24


God, the Most Merciful, gave us three basic rules for the Dress Code for Women in Islam (Submission),

(1) The BEST garment is the garment of righteousness.
(2) Whenever you dress, cover your chest (bosoms).
(3) Lengthen your garment.

While these three BASIC rules may not sound enough for those who do not trust God, the TRUE believers know that God is ENOUGH. God could have given us more details to the point of having graphs, designs and color rules, but He , the Most Merciful, wants to give us exactly these very basic rules and leave the rest for us. After these three basic rules every woman is more aware of her circumstances and can adjust her dress for her situation. Any addition to these basic Quranic rules is an attempt to correct God or improve on His merciful design.

We have no obligation to follow but God's rules. Innovations and fabrications that added thousands of rules to the women dress code are nothing but idol-worship and should be refused.

STAY WITH GOD, that is where the winners go.

May God bless us with His mercy and guidance.


Indonesian version here.

Tuesday, November 06, 2007

Forgive Me When I Whine

Today, upon a bus I saw a girl with golden hair,
And in my heart I wished that I was just as fair
When suddenly she rose to leave, I saw her hobble down the aisle.
She had one leg and wore a crutch, but as she passed, a smile.
Oh Allah, Oh Allah, forgive me when I whine.
I have 2 legs to walk upon and the world is mine.

I stopped to buy some candy; met a boy who had such charm.
We talked, he seemed so happy, if I were lead him to do no harm.
And as I left, he said to me, "Thank you, you've been so kind.
It's nice to talk with folks like you. You see," he said, "I'm blind."
Oh Allah, Oh Allah, forgive me when I whine.
I have 2 eyes to see the world and the world is mine.

Later that day on my way, I saw a boy with eyes of blue.
He watched the other children play; he did not know what to do.
I stopped to watch him, then I said, "Why don't you join the others, dear?"
He kept on looking straight ahead and then I knew he could not hear
Oh Allah, Oh Allah, forgive me when I whine.
I have 2 ears to hear the world and the world is mine.

With legs to take me where I'd go.
With eyes to see the sunset glow.
With ears to hear what I'd know
Oh the world is mine

I stopped for a moment, just look how much I have
Everywhere, in all our lives, these are His signs

Oh Allah, Oh Allah, forgive me when I whine.
I have 2 legs to walk upon and the world is mine
Oh Allah, Oh Allah, forgive me when I whine.
I have 2 ears to hear the world and the world is mine.

~ Zain Bhikka ~

Monday, October 22, 2007

Eid Mubarak

Idul Fitri (that is how Indonesian people call it) is a Muslim holiday that marks the end of Ramadhan, the month of fasting. Eid is an Arabic word meaning “festivity”, while Fitr means “to break the fast” (and can also mean “nature”, from the word “fitrah”) and so symbolozes the breaking of the fasting period.
~ Wikipedia ~

Idul Fitri is a joyous occasion with important religious significance, celebrating the achievement of enhanced piety. It is a day of forgiveness, moral victory, peace of congregation, fellowship, brotherhood and unity. Muslims celebrate not only the end of all that fasting but also thank God for the help and strength that they believe He gave them through the previous month to help everyone practice self-control. It is a time of giving and sharing, and many Muslims dress in holiday attire.

On 13th October we celebrated Idul Fitri here in Stavanger (I wish I celebrated it with my family in Indonesia). We woke up, ate a little, symbolizing the end of Ramadhan, then my hubby went to attend the special congregational prayer together with other Muslims in Storhaug Hallen. It was about a thousand people attended this special prayer. There are quite many Muslims here and mostly they are from Africa, South East Asia and Middle East.

I didn’t make any special food for this day but some of my friends invited me to their house and guess what, they made foods that I used to eat everytime I celebrated Idul Fitri in my home country. I was so happy. So, eventhough I was not with my family at least I can eat the same foods :)

~ Happy Eid Mubarak, Minal Aidhin wal Faidzin ~

Wednesday, September 05, 2007

Life is a Gift

I got a very nice story from a friend of mine that I'd like to share it with you all.


There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her.

She told her boyfriend, "If I could only see the world, I will marry you."

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her, “Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?” The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: “Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.”

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life is a Gift

Today before you say an unkind word -
Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food -
Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife -
Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life -
Think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before you complain about your children -
Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep -
Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive -
Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job -
Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another -
Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down -
Put a smile on your face and thank GOD you're alive and still around.

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Back to School

Bella started going to kindergarden again yesterday after three weeks holiday. She was so exciting unfortunately many children are still in their holiday. Only four children attended the class yesterday and today is even worse, only two including her. Luckily her favorite teacher, Ole Petter, is there, so she’s not too sad. She really likes him and he also cares for her. He always says that Bella is his best friend :). Actually he’s not her teacher anymore coz he has been rotated to another class but he sometimes comes over to visit her. And I do appreciate it. Isn’t he a good teacher?

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

White-dude Singing West Sumatran Song

Although I spent most of my life in Bandung and Jakarta, originally I'm from West Sumatra. The people from West Sumatra is called urang minang. Of course as a urang minang, I like to hear our traditional songs. This video is very special to me because the song was sung by an Australian who learnt this song while travelling in the Minangkabau region of West Sumatra.

Tuesday, July 03, 2007

Birthday Girl

Brenda had her second birthday on 24th June. I made a little party to celebrate her birthday and invited only my parents-in-law and few neighbours. Her height is 85 cm now. How fast time flies. Feels like yesterday when I introduced her into this world. And look at her now. She looks bigger than her age and beautiful of course :) Only Allah knows how much I love her. I wish her becoming a pious girl when she grows up.

Happy birthday my dearest Brenda
I love you
And for that I am happy
And for that you are happy.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Summer Time

It is summer now and the temperature in the last few days was very hot. It’s only 20 degrees but it felt like 30 degrees in Jakarta.

On the first weekend of this month we went to town to buy some souvenirs for my family in Indonesia. Oh, I forgot to tell you that my big brother is here now. He has been here since April and on 3rd July he will going back to Indo. That’s why we brought him to this souvenir shop so he could choose what gift he would like to give for his family in Jakarta. He has married and has one sweet daughter already. They are expecting the second child now. Before went back home, we stopped to buy some strawberries and morellas at the open market in the city center.

At 11 a.m last weekend we went to the beach. Usually I always bring some food everytime we go to the beach. But this time I didn’t bring any food just milk and water because the beach is just behind our home. If Bella and Brenda feel tired and hungry we just come back and eat at home. That was my thought. But I was wrong. After playing in the water for about 10 minutes, Bella said, “Mamma, kake .. kake ..”, which means she wanted to eat cake. Luckily there is a cafĂ© in the gamlehjem near the beach so I didn’t have to running home to take something to eat. I bought some waffles, bread with egg and tomato and ice creams. Bella was sooo happy to see ice cream coz she’s really a big fan of ice cream, just like her pappa :).

After lunch I went to my friend’s house to learn how to make timpan. It’s a special cake from Aceh. It made from glutinous rice flour with sarikaya for the inside. It was delicious, but unfortunately Bella and Brenda didn’t like it.

I ended up the day by taking some photos of historical buildings for my photoblog.

Have a nice week ahead everyone :).

Thursday, May 03, 2007

Labour Day

1st May is Labour Day in Norway and also some countries in Europe. There is always a parade in town for this Labour Day. So two days ago we went to town to see this parade. We went also to the tower and Belbren (Bella and Brenda) really had a good time there. I took some pictures of the parade and the picture of Belbren playing with the old cannon.

Have a very nice weekend everyone :)

Wednesday, April 04, 2007

Bella's Turn

I tried with two pictures. The first pic when she was 1.5 years old and the second one when she was 2.5 years old. Men's faces appear in both. She is indeed a bit tomboy and very strong :)

Sunday, March 25, 2007

Brenda Celebrity Look-alikes

I found this in Dina's blog and I tried it out on Brenda. I tried several times using different photos and Shirley Temple always appears. I guess she really looks like her :)

What do you think?

Friday, March 09, 2007

I Dressed Myself

My daughter Bella likes hat so much. She wears not only her own hat but also the hat of her little sister and her pappa. She also sometimes uses her panty for her hat. And she wears them whenever she wants to, even inside the house.

Wearing her pappa's hat

Wearing her panty

She dressed Brenda too

Saturday, March 03, 2007

Been in the Local Newspaper

I had mentioned here few times that I have a photoblog about my beautiful city which makes me abandon this blog a little bit. This photoblog really something for me coz I do love taking pictures. And I’m not only showing one photo a day but also giving information regarding the photo I published.

I started this photoblog on June last year. Since then I have published nearly 250 photos of Stavanger. Many people have seen my photos and it really makes me happy. So, on 20th February, a journalist from the local newspaper Stavanger Aftenblad came to my house to interview me regarding this photoblog. This article has been published on Monday, 26th February. See the article here, but unfortunately it is in Norwegian language. Sorry, ....

So, if you love your city, why not show it to the world?

Thursday, January 11, 2007

Meeting Friends

Goodie! It took a looong time for me to write again. As you might know, I visited my home country few months ago. I had a very good time there despite of the weather which I don’t like very much. It was too hot due to a very long dry season but I enjoyed every single day of my visit. I met many relatives and friends.

In Bandung I met with Bunyamin who also has a photoblog ‘Bandung Daily Photo’. He works at Jamsostek not far from where I live. This was the first time I met him. We only know each other via internet. Isn’t it amazing how internet can connected people from around the world? He’s a nice guy and very friendly. Unfortunately I didn’t take a photo of us coz we were busy talking about many things especially about our photoblog which we both agree that it is fun.

Then I met with TJ, a big fan of Elvis Presley. I have known him since I was in high school. He suggested meeting at Bougenville Valley which I have posted before. I was glad that we met there coz the place is very beautiful and it is a good place to relax or playing for the children. We spent about three hours there and before we parted, he gave me two CD’s of Indonesian songs and one CD of Elvis’s songs. He is such a kind person. I listen to the songs many times and never bored coz the songs are the chosen one. Thank you daddy TJ for your kindness. Here is the picture of him with my daughter Brenda.

In Jakarta I met with Linda whom worked at the same company with me for three years. But she has moved to another company and she’s very happy working there. I met her after lunch break in her new office. She’s kind of an always happy person, just like Stoney, remember that song? It was great to meet her again.

Before getting married, I have worked for more than 10 years and the most enjoyable times for me was when I worked at RCTI where I met and knew many people. Eka and Lana are two of them. So many unforgettable moments happened during my working there. Happy and sorrow. That’s why I was very happy to be able meeting those two nice girls again. After changing the place where to meet few times, we finally agreed to meet at Semanggi Plaza. It is a new and grand shopping mall center. It hasn’t completed yet when I left Indonesia two years ago. We chatted at food courth about two hours while eating the food we like. It was nice to know that they are both well and Eka will probably get married this year. I do hope that she will have a happy marriage.

The last one I met was Santy who has also a photoblog like I do, Jakarta Daily Photo. We knew each other from awhile back as we worked in the same company in 1996 and have been keeping in touch again recently. We met at Cilandak Town Square or Citos as many people used to call it. It was quite an interesting meeting for us coz Santy finally can see my daughters Bella and Brenda. Santy took Bella to play at the Timezone and she had a quite exciting experience in that place.

~ Never abandon an old friend. You will never find one who can take his/her place ~

Monday, January 01, 2007

Happy New Year 2007

May the new year bring you:

Troubles that last only seconds
Giggles that last minutes
Chuckles that last hours
Laughs that last days
Smiles that last weeks
Happiness that last months
Friendships that last years
but most of all
LOVE that last a lifetime!

Happy new year everyone!